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You ask how she’s doing. She says: “I’m fine.” But the way she says it? It doesn’t land. It echoes. She used to tell you everything. Now? It’s one-word replies. Dry tones. Walls wrapped in politeness. She’s not angry. She’s disappointed. Not because of one big moment— But a thousand little ones you didn’t notice. Now she’s not fighting for the relationship anymore. Because she’s already started grieving the part of her that used to believe in it. Step 1: Ask “What’s the Part of You That’s Shut D

You thought the problem was her. Her attitude. Her reactions. Her silence. You were the provider. You showed up. You gave. You built. So how could you be the problem, right? But underneath the vacations, the gifts, the “I’m doing everything I can”… You were starving for something she could never give you. Validation. Peace. Worth. You didn’t want a wife—you wanted a mirror. Someone to reflect back the man you needed to believe you were. And when she couldn’t… You punished her for it. With anger.